I feel for you. Like everyone buy the time they hit there 50's I have had to look at life in the eyes more than a couple of times and it hasn't always been pretty. I think most times what you see and hear is a reflection of what you are feeling at that moment. But really things are, what they are no more and you need to be careful (or at least I do) not to rescript them, or they take on a life of their own and become much more than they really are.eidah wrote:Actually I imagained myself having children and growing old surrounded with childrenand grand children. The good old fashioned way. Now in my 40s and failed one marriage already and not having much faith in human relationships already. I used to have a romantic view of marriage for ever and now I see allot of people using others then leaving them.
If your relationship didn't work out, well it is better for both of you to move on sooner rather than later and be happy there wasn't a child in the mix just yet. You still have plenty of time we had our daughter in our 40's and I can highly recommend it, for us it was better later rather than sooner. Give yourself some time to figure things out. Reflect on what you want but don't become a recluse, keep around people, try some new things, take on a new sport whatever works for you but keep yourself out there and your mind occupied.
Not all relationships are perfect and they all require a lot of compromise on both sides but if your lucky enough to find one that works for both people it will have been well worth the wait.