marshmallow wrote: ↑
Wed May 20, 2020 2:21 pm
Hi, I been buying up so many spydies lately, my wife has put a kibosh on my collection process. Therefore, I am debating on what folder to buy her (to appease her and continue my collection) for her handbag EDC. I was looking into something not to small (want some intimidation factor when needed), but not too big and hard to use for immediate action for self-defense. I know we got some LEO's in here and some really veteran users. I do not want to go over budget, but something that can keep my wife safe.
How do you know that she even wants a knife? From your description, it sounds as if she just wants you to stop buying more knives, so it seems doubtful that buying a new one would appease her, even if it’s intended for her.
Knife SD is a tricky subject. A knife in the hands of a determined person, including a small woman or a child, can be deadly and difficult to disarm. BUT if the person doesn’t have it in him or her to fight back, with or without a weapon, and has no idea of how they would do it, then it’s probably better that they don’t have a weapon. And don’t count on intimidation with a knife to scare away a potential attacker(s). An experienced criminal or other determined person may not be discouraged at all by someone flashing a knife at them, and will likely call their bluff and take it from them, or use a weapon of their own.
Now, if you are semi-serious about the possibility of knife SD, and your wife is willing to try it, hand her a red Magic Marker felt tip pen, and tell her to try her best to mark you with it, and no matter what, she cannot let you take it away from her. Maybe wear a good pair of safety goggles and a white shirt. Tell her to slash and stab at your hands and arms if you reach for her. The groin, thighs, etc., are also open season, so wear an athletic cup, too. Make a game out of it. And you must try your best to take the pen from her. A poster on another forum said that his son, who is a big, strong LEO tried this with his very young ( possibly 7 to 9 years old or so) granddaughter; his son eventually got the pen away from her, but it took a while, and his hands, arms and body were marked all to heck. Each one of those marks represent cuts or stabs, if it had been a knife. Had it been for real, this large man would have had severe injuries. This game is only an exercise, but it can give you some basic indication of how determined she might be if she was ever in a real situation. If she is unable or unwilling to, then she is probably not ready to carry a knife to defend herself. And if she is, a purse is not the place to keep it. The last thing you want is to have to fumble through a purse for a knife.
Note: The above-mentioned game/exercise can get pretty physical, which it should, considering what it represents. So don’t try to force her to do it if she doesn’t want to.