Both of your post above have been approved. I'm out of town for a military conference, so I haven't been online since very early this morning. I'll review your private message next.
Both new member post-approval and the outbox are topics here in the tech support area. Private messages stay in your outbox until they are read by the recipient. This is intentional as it gives senders the opportunity to edit a private message up until it is read. Once read, the message moves to your sent box. Private messages are kept private on the forum, meaning they aren't also e-mailed.
Look for updates on your account in your private messages.
There is nothing more important than this one day.